Act Like A Lady
Last Saturday night, one of my besties and I decided to do a movie night at my place. So, we ran over to our local RedBox and searched for a movie. We unanimously decided on, Think Like A Man, a movie based on Steve Harvey's best-selling book, "Act Like A Woman, Think Like A Man."
The film's plot combines the stories of five male friends (The Player, The Mama's Boy, The Dreamer, etc...) and four female friends who decide to whip their men into shape by following the relationship advice in a book called, "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man."
I really liked how each scenario and issue that the character's faced in the movie was very true to real life and relationship problems. For example, how many of us have met guys who seemed really into us, but then come to find out that he was just using you for what he could get out of you? You wanted a relationship (the real deal), but he just wanted what he could get in the moment and then he'd move on to the next best thing. Or have you dated a guy who had mama issues? His mom was always priority and you just fell to the wayside?
This movie was a reality check and it prompted me to raise my standards, in regards to dating!
Check out this quote from Steve Harvey, “Your objective is to avoid being on a string. The first step, I think, is to get over the fear of losing a man by confronting him. Just stop being afraid, already. The most successful people in this world recognize that taking chances to get what they want is much more productive than sitting around being too scared to take a shot. The same philosophy can be applied to dating: if putting your requirements on the table means you risk him walking away, it's a risk you have to take. Because that fear can trip you up every time; all too many of you let the guy get away with disrespecting you, putting in minimal effort and holding on to the commitment to you because you're afraid he's going to walk away and you'll be alone again. And we men? We recognize this and play on it, big time.”
So ladies, let's choose today to not be afraid of confronting the men in our lives!! It's time to take some risks. The only way you'll ever grow is by stepping out of your comfort zone.
Write down your relationship requirements and put them on the table. If he walks away, then it's his loss. (This coming from someone who was in a relationship and put up with a lot of shitty things. I didn't set hardly any requirements or boundaries, because I was afraid of losing the guy and being alone. You want to know what I got out of that? Manipulation, pain, stress, buckets of tears, anger, hurt, and emotional and mental breakdowns. So please, please, please take this little piece of advice and set boundaries and requirements in your current or future realtionships.)
Just like Steve Harvey said in the quote above, we let the guy get away with disrespecting us, we let him put in minimal effort and we
PS. Take a look at the theme song of the movie! Love, love, love it!!! Jennifer Hudson kills it in this music video :)
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